So, you’ve been single for a while, but you’ve finally met someone who has the potential to become more.
You’ve exchanged the common pleasantries such as “Good morning” “How was your day?” etc. and now you want to go deeper and really get an idea of who your potential significant other truly is.
After all, this is someone you want to see yourself with long term, so it’s imperative you know what you’re getting yourself into.
I have created several categories of questions that you can ask your future boo (do people even say that anymore??) to get a better understanding of who they really are.
Fun/Lighthearted
-What is the weirdest food combination you like?
-This or that?
-What is your idea of fun?
-How do you like to unwind?
-Who is your celebrity crush?
-Are you embarrassed easily?
-Introvert or Extrovert?
-How well do you get along with your family?
-What place would you travel to if money was no object?
-What is your idea of the perfect first date?
-Do you celebrate holidays? Which ones?
-Are you private or an open book?
-What is a show that you are hooked on right now?
-What are your pet peeves?
-Tell me something I don’t know about you.
Spiritual
-How would you describe your relationship with God?
-Do you attend church?
-Who is someone you look to for spiritual guidance?
-How often do you pray?
-What does spending time with God look like to you?
-What made you give your life to Christ?
-What does your typical Sunday look like?
-Have you ever prayed with your girlfriends in the past?
-How do you make God a priority?
-Are you involved in any of your church’s ministries?
Future
-What are your long/short term goals and how do you plan to accomplish them?
-Do you want kids/more kids in the future?
-Do you believe in the institution of marriage?
-What is your purpose for dating?
-If you were married, would divorce be an option? If so, under what circumstance?
Thought Provoking
-What sustains a relationship?
-What is one thing you want to do differently in your next relationship than you did in previous ones?
-What is your biggest regret?
-What do you do when you have to make a tough decision?
-Do you have trust issues from your past relationships w/family or exes?
-What are some things you want to do to improve yourself?
-Do you know your love language? If so, what is it? Can you guess mine?
-What went wrong in your last relationship and what part did you play in it not working out?
-What would people say are the top 5 characteristics you display? How would you answer this question about yourself?
-Can you forgive/have you forgiven infidelity?
Preferences
-Do you/would you date outside of your race?
-Would you date someone who practiced a different religion than you?
-Am I the type of woman you typically go for?
-Do you have a “type”? If so, what is it?
-What attracted you to me?
Parenting
-How often do you see/speak with your children?
-How is your relationship with your child’s mother(s)?
-Are you on child support? (this might be a bit touchy, so ask only after you feel they are comfortable opening up to you)
-How do you discipline your kids?
-How is your relationship with your child/children?
-What are the names and ages of your kids? (maybe ask about the names a little later when you know they are more comfortable w/you. It may naturally come up if you ask their ages first)
-What’s the best gift you’ve gotten for Father’s day from your kids?
Getting to know someone is going to take time and effort so don’t expect to get all the answers in one day. I’ve asked a lot of these questions myself and have been impressed with the insight it has given me. I hope these questions provide clarity for you as you embark on the journey of getting to know your potential significant other on a deeper level.
What are some questions from this list that you plan on asking? Let me know in the comments.